The first Christmas without.

The first Christmas without.

The first Christmas without. 150 150 Lauren Ellerman

For many of the people we represent in medical malpractice cases who have lost a family member, the holidays take on a different meaning.  Rather than cheer and joy, sadness can take over.  As I’ve talked to some of our clients over the past few weeks, I have been reminded of this reality.


And really, regardless of how you have lost someone, perhaps there is no worse time than the first Christmas without them.  In recognition of that, I have compiled some short readings about grief and loss that may be helpful.  


Kristie West, a grief specialist, starts her 5-part blog post about the first Christmas without someone you love with this post about expectations for the day.  The other 4 posts, which include thoughtful tips about including your lost loved one in the day and how to take care of yourself and other family members, are accessible and real.

PBS has a t.v. series called This Emotional Life that explores mental health issues.  It also has a blog about grief and loss.  In this post, Dr. Camille Wortman spends some time giving suggestions about things to try.  She also identifies some common holiday dilemmas to prepare for.

AARP has many resources about grief and loss, including this list of 10 things to try during the holidays, including acceptance, preparation, and acknowledgement.


If you find yourself in this situation this year, my heart goes out to you and your family, and you have my sincerest hope that you may still find joy and cheer by honoring your lost loved one, their memory, and the gifts they gave you while here.

About the author

Lauren Ellerman

In 2011, Lauren Ellerman was named "Young Lawyer of the Year" by the Roanoke Bar Association for her work in the community. To speak with Lauren about your personal injury case, contact her at

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